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World Adoption Day

World Adoption Day. This is us! (Ok I might have stolen that from somewhere) Today our family celebrates the best thing that ever happened to us. Adoption. It’s the reason we are a family. I didn’t plan this and it’s not what I would have chosen a few years ago, but I thank God for unanswered prayers and for whispering adoption into our hearts. I also thank God for birth parents who make adoption possible by choosing life for their babies. And I appreciate how fortunate I am to live in a country that believes in and supports adoption. I know it’s not possible in every country.

I couldn’t imagine loving these tiny people any more, and after 2 and a half years I still have to pinch myself every day that I get to be my two babies mommy.

Happy World Adoption Day!!!

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Ellis’ Adoption Story


Well we have been on a bit of a whirlwind this month. Let me tell you about it! 

All the month of May we received adoption opportunities from our agency. With each one the due date was sooner and sooner. Then on June 5th it was about 10pm and my phone vibrated. I thought to myself, I wonder if that is beginnings because they always email opportunities at 10pm. I checked my email and sure enough it was. They were looking for families for a little baby boy born June 2. I told Brandon and we read through the information together. We decided we would like to be presented to this birth mom. We decided to keep this quiet with friends and family because we just had someone look at our profile and not choose us like 3 days before. 
Remember my post about being anxious? Well I was incredibly anxious for the 4 days between finding out about this little guy and hearing if we were chosen. It was so hard because we knew he was out there in the world. In the nicu and we couldn’t be with him, he could be ours and we couldn’t be with him. 
On Thursday the day they were presenting our profile, my phone rang at 12:30. It was the agency director. We were chosen! The birth parents loved us and loved our book and loved that their baby would have a sister who was also adopted. I couldn’t believe it. There I was crying in the costco freezer aisle. The cashier was the first to know! I went to find Brandon at work and told him the news. 
We were going to meet the birth parents and the baby boy on Tuesday morning. We had to wait the whole weekend but knowing now that he was ours, I felt peace about it. I had to trust that when God wanted us with him we would be. He protected him up to this point and he would continue to do so. I realized that Ellis was Gods child before he was mine. 
We met the birth parents and everything went great. They are so sweet. Then we all went to the hospital and they introduced us to him. This sweet tiny little baby boy, his birth mom picked him up and placed him in my arms. We all visited together for awhile and then everyone left except Brandon and I. We had a beautiful afternoon getting to know our new son. Brandon then went to get Ruby to meet him. 



It was so hard to leave him at the end of that day. I planned to come back the next day and they let me stay 2 nights in the hospital with him and have him in my room. 
Then on the Friday everyone arrived (birth parents, birth Nana, agency director, hospital social worker, birth parent counsellor, us and the foster parents) we had an entrustment ceremony which was so special. The agency director said something about every person there and honoured them for their role in this adoption. A blessing was read for Ellis and we read through a promise to keep our relationship open for the benefit of Ellis. 

Ellis had to go home with the foster family because our paper work hadn’t gone into the ministry for approval yet. We got to visit him and talk with them and after one week we got approval to bring him home. 
It so incredible how fast things can change with adoption. When we signed up with the agency in April they told us that they were closing their list because they had too many families and not that many adoptions happening. The lady on the phone told me that can change anytime though. And boy did it. 
In May we had 4 different opportunities. At the beginning of June we didn’t know about Ellis and now at the end of June we have a four week old baby boy. God is so good. We are so grateful for this perfect little guy. 
This adoption took us by surprise. We were not expecting this to happen so soon and from the start this adoption has felt so easy. Which is strange to us. Easy is not what we are use to when it comes to building our family. Honestly I’m speechless. I hope Ellis’s adoption encourages you. Many adoption scenarios are very hard. A lot of them fall through. But some of them, are easy. We don’t take this for granted. We love this little man and his birth parents. When I have processed all of this I’m sure I will have more to say. 

For now I’ll leave you with this verse. Which is just so true for me right now. 


“He settles the childless woman in her home as a happy mother of children. Praise the LORD.”

‭‭Psalm‬ ‭113:9‬ ‭NIV‬‬

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Monthly Resource Recommendation 

This month I wanted to share and honour Beginnings Family Services. We are currently adopting our son through this agency and so far the whole experience has been great. We feel that they are very diligent and caring for birth parents and always helpful to us as well. 

Beginnings does crisis pregnancy counselling, adoption and embryo donation and adoption services. You can visit their website at http://www.beginnings.ca/

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3 Types of Adoption – Choosing an Agency


I’ve had a few requests for information on the adoption process. So I thought I would make a little video series breaking down the 3 types of adoption. The links are below. 

Private Domestic Adoption

Domestic Public Adoption
International Adoption
Comment below if you have any questions. 

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Whatever is for you, won’t pass you. 


I heard this Irish proverb from a lovely and respected Irish lady that I know. She said it at a bridal shower about a couple that had dated long ago and then rekindled their romance and got married. It really stuck with me. 

We found out last Saturday about an adoption opportunity which we said yes we would like our profile book shown to the birth mom. This birth mom’s due date was the following Monday! That’s insane! 1week! This got our minds going a little crazy. If we were chosen I would have to stop working, our plans for the next few months would all be out the window. We would have to scrape together thousands of dollars some how. Plus emotionally preparing ourselves to welcome another child and birth parents into our lives. But we wanted it and we were very excited about it. 

They presented the birth mother with families yesterday, so we prayed, and we waited and then later in the evening they let us know that we were not chosen. We are pretty used to that response because we are more used to getting no for an answer. We have heard no many times and yes only one time. One perfect time that brought us Ruby and made us parents, a family.  I have to say it’s easier this time to hear the answer no. Now that we are parents.  We know how incredibly blessed we are to have 1 child and we also trust God. He brought her to us and he designed our family with each unique personality for a reason. Our next child will be exactly who he planned to be with us all along. 
We were getting very excited that this might be our baby, but it wasn’t. And the amazing thing is, someone else’s dream of becoming a family is coming true right now. We know that when it is our baby, God will bring it to us. There’s no stopping him. 

Whatever is for us won’t pass us. 

This is adoption. It’s such a roller coaster. Our hearts have to be in a place where we could welcome a new child at any moment and also be prepared to not be chosen and nothing changes. So until next time, we wait, and we pray. 

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Mother’s Day


Mothers Day has so many different emotions for me. I celebrate that I am so blessed to be a mom to my beautiful daughter Ruby. 
I celebrate that I was raised by an amazing selfless and caring mother. She was always there for us, so sweet and loving. I wish I could be just like her. I also mourn that for 12 years we have been slowly loosing her to Alzheimer’s disease. 
My heart breaks that today is such a painful reminder to my infertility community that still has waiting arms to hold a babe they can call their own. And moms who did hold a baby they called their own and then lost. 
Motherhood isn’t just something that comes and goes. However we experience motherhood or being mothered makes us who we are. It molds our personalities, developes our strengths and nurtures our weaknesses. 
Wherever you are on your road to motherhood. Your experiences are valuable. They have or are shaping you to be the amazing and unique mother you will be one day. 

Happy Mothers Day

“Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.”

‭‭Romans‬ ‭12:15‬ ‭NIV‬‬

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This is My Infertility • Day 3


Last but not least we are featuring Melanie’s family today. Do you remember our prayer request a few months back? Well baby boy was adopted and is right where he belongs! This family had a long wait for this precious little guy. 

Sharing these photos this week shows just how unique each situation is. I know that each and every story is painful but there is hope and God has a plan for your family.  I hope these stories have encouraged you this week. 

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This is My Infertility • Day 2

Secondary infertility, adoption, infertility support, haiti adoption
This week is National infertility awareness week. I have asked for some submissions of photos and verses from people who have gone through this valley of infertility and come out on the other side, with beautiful families. 

Today we are featuring Jenn’s family. We will be sharing her full story soon! 

I wanted to encourage you, that even though this season in life is extremely hard, there is hope, there is light at the end of the tunnel and it is oh so bright
If you are one of these people and you would like to be featured this week, please send me a photo, a verse or saying that you found to be close to your heart and bullet points of your story. 

Please send to mystory@hopeforwaiting arms

I hope these stories encourage you this week. 

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March Resource Recommendation

This month I am sharing info about a conference coming up in May. I really wanted to go this year but it’s a little far for us at the moment (California). But it looks like an amazing weekend full of supportive community. If you need a getaway and some food for your heart and soul get your tickets soon! 

“Choose Joy is a two day faith-based conference event geared toward people experiencing infertility and/or desiring to build their family through adoption. ”

For more info visit www.choosejoyevent.com

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Monthly Resource Recommendation 

Resolve is an amazing resource for anyone facing the challenges of building a family. There is a tonne of information on adoption, fertility treatment, news on infertility stats and tax credits for expenses etc etc etc. 
Resolve is the U.S. National infertility association. Visit Resolve Here

Follow them on Instagram @resolveorg

Check it out, and I hope it helps you! As always if you have a resource to share, please do! 

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Hope for the Holidays: Day 1 We hoped for a baby, and we got so much more

I went to the mail yesterday and there was this beautiful Christmas card from our daughters birth Nana (birth mothers, mother). Inside was a bunch of Thai Baht. We are headed to Thailand on vacation this week, and she later told me that they wanted to send us off with a little extra. She is so sweet and thoughtful.

Every holiday or special ocassion in our family, I can expect a beautiful card, some sort of gift, (often a gift card telling Ruby to take us out for dinner or coffee) And corresponding confetti. I’ve learned to stop opening them in my car, but I still smile when it goes everywhere.

I can’t help but remember when we started the adoption process, that open adoption scared us. I elaborate on that in my post she’s only ours because of them so I won’t go on and on 😉 but we barely wanted birth parents in our lives let alone birth grandparents. Now we feel different. We are grateful to have them in our lives and in Ruby’s life. They love her so much and we love them. We hoped for a baby and we got so much more. We see them a couple of times a year, last year they all visited us on a camping trip and enjoyed Their granddaughter in that environment. We are learning that adoption isn’t just about us getting the baby we desired. It’s about so much more. A bigger picture that is ever evolving. And we get to watch our precious little girl at the centre of it, lighting up everyone’s lives along the way.

We are continually blessed by Ruby’s birth family, and I believe that God weaved our lives together for a reason. We were hoping and praying for a baby, and he knew all along what he was doing. I pray that if this is where you are at right now, know that he has a plan. He hasn’t forgotten about you.

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November Book Recommendation

It’s still November for a few more days and that means that we are still celebrating #novembernationaladoptionawarenessmonth. Whoa that’s a big one! 

This months book recommendation has a lot to do with adoption, but also marriage, family, God and really really hard times. 

Mary Beth Chapman tells the story of how God grew their family through biological children and adoption. She also shares about a huge tragedy in their family and how they navigated through it. 

I know I was encouraged by her story, and I hope you are too. 

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5 tips for Helping with the Cost of Adoption 

One of the down sides to adoption is that it can be very costly. International adoption can be $30,000-$80,000. Domestic Private adoption is between $12,000-$20,000. 

There are supports out there though, to help offset the cost. I have listed a few of those options below. 

1. Public Adoption

You can always adopt through the public system which is free. That’s right it’s totally free. Click below for more information. 

Free Adoption Option

2. Adoption Tax Credit

In Canada you can claim up to $15,255 in adoption expenses, and get some of that back in a non refundable tax credit. Click below to learn more. 

Tax credit info

3. Adoption Grants

There is also an organization called Abba Canada. They give grants to assist adoptive families. They give up to $2,500 for domestic and $3,500 for international adoption. We received a grant through Abba for our adoption. Click the link below for more info. 

Abba Canada

4. Waiting Children 

There is an adoption organization called Reese’s Rainbow, they facilitate international adoptions for Americans and Canadians. Most of the children are waiting children with Down syndrome. Reese’s Rainbow raises money for their waiting children, this can be a huge help for families who want to adopt internationally. Go to their website and try not to fall in love with these precious children. 

Visit Reese’s Rainbow Here

5. Go Fund Me

And last but not least, Your biggest help can be the people around you, who love you and want to see you adopt a child. Many people want to support adoption but aren’t in a position to adopt themselves. You can start a go Fund Me page to let your friends and family know you are adopting and they can support you in any denomination they are comfortable with. This is also a great way to ask for prayer and keep everyone updated on your adoption journey. 

Start a Go Fund Me page

I hope some of these suggestions give you a little hope for overcoming the huge cost of adoption. 

As always if you have any suggestions to add, please don’t hesitate to comment or share!